Submissive or dominant?

[Miss T]

When clicking the Submit button, after typing the above, it seemed almost ironic. Did anyone else think that for a brief moment ?

Snap!

[easy_as_]

When clicking the Submit button, after typing the above, it seemed almost ironic. Did anyone else think that for a brief moment ?

Snap!

Hehe, I expected no less, if I am honest !

[andy250]

I dont know the answer here, I'll let those who've met me say what they think. I really never have thought about it?? I am a dom, sub or a switch???

I know in real time I am most deffo an alpha male, when playing have never really thought about it???? I just enjoy the experience.

regards

Andy

[gooeykez]

I am definately sub, my ex wife used to act the dom when we played together and she was very good, for example i came home from work one day she was sat there waiting dressed in this red pvc catsuit, she ordered me to strip and she put a dog collar and lead around my neck, she ordered me to sit on the floor while she went and finished cooking dinner, when dinner was done she brought mine in to me in a dog bowl and made me eat it like a dog, not easy eating spaghetti bolognese like that, i wasnt allowed to support the bowl with my hands so it kept moving away from me, i also had my drink in a dog bowl aswell.
After dinner i hd to clean myself up the best way i could like a dog would wash itself, i then spent the eveningby her side and wasnt allowed to sit on the furniture then when we went to bed she lead me up there stairs like a dog, then made me lay at the foot of the bed until she allowed me to get on the bed.
It was a fantastic evening and i was extremey turned on, and just to finish the night of we had sex doggy style.
Unfortunately we never did that again id have loved a repeat performance.
We did plenty of other things and i was always the sub, she wanted me to dominate her but im hopeless at it and she would always be disobedient cos she knew i would give in.

[DecadentDoll]

I'm incredibly submissive with my boyfriend. Only because he would never take advantage of it. It's a great symbiotic relationship. I'd love to domme him sometime. He'd love it too.... if i could take myself seriously for just a moment it might even happen!

[Mike Nomic]

[quote="MissHelen"] (when playing within limits nothing's ever going to happen that the sub doesn't want to anyway).

Therein lies the paradox; in a consensual SM scenario or relationship, there will always be predetermined limits and/or a 'safe word' to stop a session - and so the submissive party is always in ultimate control. The slave is in fact the master (or mistress!).

At the risk of teaching my granny to suck eggs, it is worth remembering (when maybe initially contacting other interested parties in foreign lands) that whereas SM in the UK refers to sado-masochism, in the USA for instance SM refers to Slave & Master - a complete reversal of roles.

[UncleRupert]

I'm switch but I prefer to be sub - unfortunately I seem to attract lots of sub women, so I normally end up as the dom.Not that I'm really compaining but it would be nice to abandon myself once in a while

[shredder]

Hmm, bit of both myself, just not that deep into the humiliation side of it. I do enjoy being messed up, being told what to do, having my clothes destroyed and I am sufficiently creative to enjoy doing that to others. Being sub is a whole lot less brain work for me and I get to spend more time in the sensation of it rather than figuring out what's next. I guess that's the escape from reality part for me, as I am the planner and organizer type professionally and in most 'standard' social settings.

If I'm the one getting the messy smearing backrub by a girl sitting messy on my back, somehow I don't consider that being submissive, even if she is picking the materials and movements and its her plan. That's being treated like a king.



PS - yeah, been laughing at the 'submit' button on this forum style (other forums) for years now.

[m_fun_cd3]

well... I'd say BOTH...

I love to be the one in charge, with a willing female dressed in tight sexy outfits, getting her as messy as possible... playing, touching, massaging... getting us both aroused with the whole experience... maybe some fun bondage with it...
... and, by the same token... I would love to have her do the same to me... outfits & all.
I wouldn't do anything with/to a female, that I wouldn't have her do to mee also.

[mudreamer]

Bit of both for me too I think; mind you when you start by having to do it to yourself does that make you both or neither? (Gives up philosphical argument and heads for larder) Mind you its hard work trying to be sub at first when you are trying to explain to a bemused partner - "no, I do want my ears filled honest!" "Just pour it over my gmmmpphh, no leave my mouth clear I can't give you instructions if I'm gmmppph"

'spose that's part of the fun