Submissive or dominant?

[theregoesmyhead]

Hi All,

As well as my sploshing fetish, i have an interest in some elements of BDSM. When the splosh and BDSM worlds collide is where most of my fantasies are born. I wont' go into details of my personal kinks, but i'll just say that i am very much a submissive (although maybe a tiny bit switchy), and all of my fantasies involve being on the receiving end of a nasty, humiliating and mercilessless gunging from a beautiful dominant woman.

Although i'm not exactly a social butterfly in the online WAM community (i'd class myself as more of a lurker) i've met far more subs than dom(me)s. Is it just that i've been looking in all the wrong places? Are there far more subs than dom(mes) out there? I'd be interested to know everyone's thoughts.

A

[mrandmrsfilth]

I tend to agree. It's only within the context of my current relationship that I've tapped into my 'sub' tendencies.

I've discovered there's a lot of people out there who, like me, are successful in their professional lives and as a consequence like to have that control / power taken away by being totally dominated / humliated.

It's an interesting theme and one I want to explore further. Fortunately I have a very understanding and wonderful girlfriend who seems happy to indulge me

I too would be interested in others views as it does seem this forum is mainly subs, both male and female.

[Hayley]

Hi

Well I'm definitely a sub for sploshing but not by temperament! Bill by contrast is quite domme for sploshing and soft as shite in the real world!

I do think that playing a role different to your normal one is part of the fun of it.

Hayley

[mrandmrsfilth]

Hi

I do think that playing a role different to your normal one is part of the fun of it.

Hayley

Definitely, hence why I love being 'made' to wear frilly knickers when being humiliated

...then having them filled with rice pudding !!!

[Miss T]

*Laughs* no one has ever accused Me of being submissive and gotten away with it!!!

..... but really I have to say there is something to be said for having that little subby at ones feet wriggling and squirming while one looks down on them whilst deciding what is best for them.... or chained up.......or....... or.....

Oh dear have I said too much.... I do hope not!!!

ps... just read My sig!

[matt2matt2002]

Put me down as a Sub, Miss.

In fact you can put me down in anything you want - the messier the better

As previously said here, I think my sub desires come from wanting the 'Power' I have at work, taken away from me.

Deep stuff here, so look forward to the follwing replies
(& pies)

[piemeplease]

i'm very submissive.

[messymercedes]

oooooo loadsa subs Gotta admit i am a bit domineering in real life (wonda sometimes how b/f puts up with me ) and would LOVE to play the role of a Dom in Wam,all dressed in my usual pvc etc

cede xx

[TottyMcGee]

Very much a switch here, but hugely bratty even when subbing. I learnt from below in the BDSM scene (I'm of the opinion that being a good Dom requires knowing first hand what it feels like on the receiving end) but tend to top there these days. I like to challenge, to be challenged back, and indeed being defeated, providing I haven't made it too easy. Being broken is so much more satisfying when you know you've made an effort instead of just going down like a piece of rubber.

I don't really do the humiliation angle - partly I'm too extrovert to be easily humiliated (I tend to take more empowerment than humiliation from doing it anyway, screw what others think), also I just find it too hard to buy into humiliation fantasies when it's the sub that's getting the most enjoyment from their supposed "humiliation" (when playing within limits nothing's ever going to happen that the sub doesn't want to anyway).

I suppose what others think of as humiliation I see as removal of inhibitions and empowerment of self. Which is more or less what I try to lead subs to; I think submission is a gift of no value if it comes from someone who doesn't love themself, it's like giving away something you don't want.

[stonecastle]

I would like to be gunged by a woman while gunging her at the same time. I think that would be best.

[piemeplease]

SHHHHHHH

Miss Helen don't let on that us submissives have all the fun!

[easy_as_]

Sort of switchy but definately have become more Dom in how I regard myself in this these days.

A bratty sub who fights back would be ideal.

When clicking the Submit button, after typing the above, it seemed almost ironic. Did anyone else think that for a brief moment ?

No ? Just me then ! LOL

[messymercedes]

hehehe I can do that, u offering?

cede xx

[easy_as_]

hehehe I can do that, u offering?

cede xx

LOL !

Well, I am now !

[wamram]

I have to say i am more of a sub then a dom but can swing both ways.

wamram