How to tell others?

[alext]

Hi guys and gals

Have any of you ever told anyone, other than your significant other, about your interests? Close friends, not so close friends, family, that kind of thing?

If you have, what did you say? How did it go?

[Phantom]

Hi Athrun

I've told three guys about my fetish.

The first two are still close best mates. One I told when I was about 20 (a lonnnng time ago). He also confided his own fetish in me, so i felt fine discussing it. He says WAM seems like a good laugh and interesting, but it does nothing for him.

The other best mate, I think the subject of fetishes came up, and I let it slip that I had a weird fantasy/fetish ... he pressed me for ages to know what it was, and I wouldn't tell him. Eventually, he was round my place one time and I put on one of my WSM videos and let him see for himself. His reaction? "Urgggghh!! Yuk!!!" It didn't do anything for him at all, but he also said it was no big deal - in fact he seemed disappointed it wasn't something much more bizarre.

The third guy used to be a good mate, but we had a falling out. Hopefully he hasn't blabbed it to many people, because we still move in the same circles. He certainly had a big mouth - loved gossiping.

Other than that, I'm sure at least two other good mates suspect my fetish for various reasons ... as does my brother.

Oh - then of course there's the London meetings, where I found it very therapeutic to meet other people with this fetish and talk about our various encounters etc.

Nowadays, I still keep it a fairly guarded secret, but when I think about it ... there's a hell of a lot of people who know, and it doesn't bother me at all really - not like when I was a teenager and in my early 20s.

Phantom

[shredder]

I found its all in the presentation. I have never used the word fetish to describe it, thats for sure. More along the lines of describing 'silly fun things' that have happened when talking to friends. Paint fights, mud fights, food fights, muddy sports games, all perfectly normal. Yes, everyone accepts that there is a degree of sexuality to it as well and that some boobage does indeed pop out (or look better wetter) but its on a friend basis only, not even friends with benefits. Heck, I meet friends and families of wammers that know I also wam and I am just another nutty person that has same interests.

Mind you, I have never showed a non-wammer any site pics from anywhere, even the freebies.

[andy250]

Everbody in my life knows excataly what I do, why keep it a secret, the sun still comes up in a morning. A lot of people ask when is the next shoot and who with etc.

When you first tell them they do fall off their stool for a min, then they get over it and have some personal crisis to deal with.

regards

Andy

[alext]

Thanks to you guys who replied so far - Phantom, I think thats the reason I haven't mentioned it to anyone short of my current girlfriend and my closest friend - I guess I'm afraid of falling out with them and having them use it against me

Has anyone else here told anyone about your interests?

[DecadentDoll]

I'm a lot like Andy on this one, everyone knows.

However I do feel there's a disctinct difference to admitting to modelling it /recording it/ photographing it..... it's somewhat easier to say, there's this thing I DO...than to say "this is what I get off on, this is what makes me horny"

All my friends and family knew for ages, but only when the More article came out did they find out I did this sexually and was indeed, turned on by it. Close friends weren't surprised and some did know... but yeah.

After all my attitude about not caring, it did get to me for a while, my mum especially didn't want people to know and took it badly.


But, I haven't lost any mates over it, or any love from the family!

I guess it's all about how you approach it sploshing is harmless fun compared to some of the other fetishes out there, and i think my mum would be rather more disturbed to hear of some of my rubber kidnapping fantasies.

[BillShipton]

You want someone to kidnap your rubber? But how would you erase things?

Yes, it is easier when you do it 'as a job' as well as for fun. Like Dolly we do both and Hayley and I have chatted to most people we know about it. I think if people like you they like you whatever you do. Some people probably think we're a bit weird but chances are they are the people who would have thought that before cos we are an unusual couple (when we together!). However I think you talk about it normally, matter-of-factly and in context then most people understand.

Bill

[driversoft]

Well, I'm happy to tell anyone who might have an interest in knowing. The secret is to be positive about it - if you sound embarrassed whilst talking about it, then you'll come across as 'pervy' - conversely, if you're confident enough to talk about it openly, I've found that people are at worst intrigued, and at best genuinely interested - I've had more than two sessions with females who just wanted to 'give it a go' that way. It's all in the presentation - as every salesman knows only too well.

[Pete800]

When I was married our close circle of freinds new, it came up in joking really, drunken telling secrets, it was the subject of a few jokes at times, purely off the cuff moments though. Divorced now and just my other half knows, got a different circle of friends. I don't see it as a problem though, others knowing, its about having fun!

[DungeonMasterOne]

I'm pretty much open about it, and always have been. My boss and most of my colleagues at work know, as do my housemate and just about all my friends. As others have said, it's harmles and fun, being up-front and open makes for a far easier life than trying to keep secrets.