Ladies in bondage resisting being pied etc

[josie]

This is a kind of fantasy of my hubbys. He thinks to take a woman (me), and force her to be tied to a chair (or bed) and repeatedly pied in the face and other regions, is quite hot (even though he isnt even into sploshing), do many men find this a turn on, or is my husband just into the Domination side of sexual matters, or really a splosher in disguise? I think, he is a splosher in disguise, he fell asleep during my sessions with Dolly, yet wanted to know the details after, im not putting him up for analyses, but surely, although he is a natural DOM, Sploshing wouldnt come into it, unless he liiked it, however i have expressed the view that i LOVE sploshing, and maybe he is doing it just for me? I suppose what im asking is, can a non wammer, be turned on by wamming if they have the Dominant side to them? Answers please, anybody not answering gets a spanking (may take a while to get to you ).

[BillShipton]

I think you are right in that if you enjoy being dominant you will enjoy sploshing someone in a dominant way. It can be a sort of SM-lite with nobody getting hurt but the person very definitely feeling dominated.

For Hayley and I it is the other way round! I have always like the humour etc of sploshing and have got used to being dominant because that's the way Hayley likes it. I am not naturally a dom guy (far too much of a wuss) but she likes me to be that so I try and incorporate it into my messy activities with her.

At the end of the day though, if you have found something that works for both of you then what could be better?

PS Mark doesn't come over as Dom as all, some can be a bit creepy. But I've never seen him 'in character!'

[josie]

Marks Dom character is the same as his normal character except he doesnt smile, ha ha . And i dont have to call him MasterDommyOne or anuthing like that either, hes a kind of "laid back" Dom, like the guy out of Secretary the film, except he doesnt earn loads as a lawyer

[BillShipton]

No, Hayley DEFINITELY doesn't do the "Yes, oh Master" bollocks, and I would find it embarrassing! Tempted though I am to go into full Vincent Price mode, all I do is slap the pies a bit more viciously, drag her around, tie her up and call her the occasional rude name (whih she likes but is borderline embarassing for me!). It is mainly about the sploshing and keeping it relentless, pie after pie, mess after mess without mercy! I'm sure she'll say she wants much more but it's the best I can do!

[starbrightnight]

I think that most sexual fantasy has a sub/dom element to it, and generally men tend towards the dominant and women to the submissive - though I read the other day that women are now more likely to express fantasies of domination than previously, but this maybe that they feel freer to admit to these, and fantasies generally, nowadays.

As Bill said sploshing can be sen as a form of sub/dom lite, which has humorous connotations rather than anything heavy. I suppose everyone has laughed when the pompous person gets a pie in the face.

And I suppose it is not far from here to find it erotic to see a glamorous woman on the receiving end. There must be many men, and women, who were not into sploshing but have been turned on by seeing women getting sploshed in a silent film, at the circus or on Tiswas or Noel's House party.

I say women, because I think there is something about a woman getting sploshed - with all the emphasis on a woman's appearance - hair clothes, make-up,etc. that makes it a bit taboo, and therefore exciting, when this is messed up (obviously some people do like to see men getting messy).

I myself like to see women getting messed up, but all my fantasies about getting messy myself are about me dressed as a woman getting messy. So I like to identify with both roles.

[Codger]

This is an interesting discussion - why are women attracted to dominant men but, perhaps, with a view that they can somehow control this power. I think there are two lines of thought here:

- some women are attracted to power regardless of the physical attractiveness of the male in question. How else can one explain how some politicians with large bow-windows and faces that could stop a clock have wives that look like entrants for 'Miss World', yet the women still believe they exercise a hold in that they can manipulate their man sexually and influence his decisions at, maybe, an international level;

- the old idea of the hunter/provider and that the woman will welcome her man home and provide sexual favours - but only if he is a successful hunter. As a consequence, he will bust a gut to provide for her and his (possibly) ever-growing family. Therefore, only the successful hunters will be rewarded and the wusses amongst us (Hi, Bill), who cannot catch anything faster than a speeding tortoise, have to rely on another asset - our gift of the gab and ability to make our woman laugh!!!

Codger

[stu08]

i personaly love the idea to have a girl tied to a chair and repeatadly pie her

[Codger]

i personaly love the idea to have a girl tied to a chair and repeatadly pie her

I rather like the idea that the girl will arrive at my office door carrying a tray of pies, and then pie herself while I watch.

Down, boy.

Codger

[josie]

In normal life outside the boudoir, im actually quite bossy and marks not bossy or controlling at all, i like the fact i do what i want (within reason) and now im being boring going on about how great Mark is, i shall stop.

[muckypup]

Answers please, anybody not answering gets a spanking (may take a while to get to you ).

Right I'm not answering! Oh shit!

I obviously can't speak for Mark, but if I were Domming someone and there was something that I wasnt totally into but could be humiliating and the other person REALLY wanted, I think it would be a huge turn on to do it to see the reaction to it. Seeing someone really happy/into it/turned on would be the biggest turn on for me.

[Richard]

Masochist: "Please hurt me."

Sadist: "No!"

Masochist: "Thank you! That was wonderful."

[josie]

Answers please, anybody not answering gets a spanking (may take a while to get to you ).

Right I'm not answering! Oh shit!

I obviously can't speak for Mark, but if I were Domming someone and there was something that I wasnt totally into but could be humiliating and the other person REALLY wanted, I think it would be a huge turn on to do it to see the reaction to it. Seeing someone really happy/into it/turned on would be the biggest turn on for me.

Spot on, thats exactly what Mark said last night when i broached the subject in normal conversation went like this:_

"Cup of tea Josie babe?"
"Mark, how do you feel about the fact that i like you making me messy even though it does nothing for you?"
"Well Josie, i get off on seeing you getting *happy*, so its great"
"Oh good, can i have a ginger biscuit with my tea please?"
"No, theyve gone off "

[Hayley]

Hi

Interesting discussion - I didn't know ginger biscuits could go off!

Hayley

PS Will contribute more sensibly later.

[DecadentDoll]

Hi

Interesting discussion - I didn't know ginger biscuits could go off!

Hayley

PS Will contribute more sensibly later.

yeah i thought they were supposed to be quite resilient also. kind of thing you could keep in your bunker!

[josie]

Well it said on the packet "Do not eat if seal is broken" but we had to break the seal to get the biscuits out,and so then could not eat them as the seal was broken! yet another example of how the big supermarket chains rip off the consumers with their clever cons (joke by the way)