How do you tell your friends your in to wam?

[thegamerster]

I don't know if this has been asked before but i don't know how to tell my friends i am in to wam and girls sinking in mud and quicksand.

[Candy Custard]

why tell them? do they tell you all their little kinks/fetishes etc? I am suspecting not, otherwise you would have already said....

[thegamerster]

i will say a bit more in the morning since it is almost midnight here in the uk.

[eden]

I totally agree with Candy. Unless my friends have been snooping on my computer, they don't know and I wouldn't tell them. I think personally my friends are aware I'm kinky but I wouldn't tell them what or why. Thats mine and Jons business, not anyone elses.

I dont think telling people your kinks is necessary for a friendship.

[Phantom]

I told three trusted male friends - all were totally cool with it. None of them ridiculed me or ran to tell everyone else.

One was interested to know more. The other two thought it was a bit gross, but had no problems with it. One was disappointed that my big secret wasn't something more freaky (I think he was hoping to learn I dress in a gimp suit with a long rubber vibrating nose).

And I told my girlfriend (Miss Phantom) ... who is now my wife (Mrs. Phantom) and has had a dozen awesome messy sessions with me, allowing me to live out the scenarios I have fantasized about since I was 12 or 13 years old.

And they all lived happily (and messily) ever after.

[slapstickfan]

My mates know I like female mud wrestling but thats mainstream really anyway. They however don't know about my slapstick kink.

Slipped up in front of one of my mates while watching the Graham Norton show when Candy's pic covered in food shot up on the screen while discussing Mickey Rourkes film 9 1/2 weeks. Without thinking said hey I know her, then spent 5 minutes trying to explain myself out of it lol.

I tried to introduce a bit of wam fun with a g/f once. She said thats a bit different and we carried on dating but a few weeks later got dumped. She didn't mention the splosh thing as a reason but I was suspicious it might have been a reason so I agree with Eden, I dont think telling people your kinks is necessary.

[Etonman]

Can't see any good reason to tell anyone, unless you want to.

It's a private interest, perhaps a bit querky to some people, but neither illegal nor harmful, doesn't affect one's lifestyle or work/business, so why any need to tell.

If I like collecting stamps, or train numbers, this might seem a bit odd to some people, but if I enjoy it and it keeps me out of mischief, it's really no one else's business.

[T-34]

If there's a mate who will understand, it will usually just slip into (drunk) conversation. Granted, it was hentai that I was chatting about, but turned out they liked it as well

Probably not something you just casually drop into conversation though

[andy250]

Its a big step to tell everybody, unless you plan to do it on a commercial sense I would agree with everybody who has posted.

My life is slightly diffrent as I know produce and do events etc. Though I do sometimes warn Jammed about telling people he works with etc. Due to his age.

regards

Andy

[Geordie_girl]

Cause my boyfriend got me into this the first time he told me he was into girls getting messy (not so much him) i remember think wat on earth is he going on about but then i thought no il give it a chance, i think it just depends what your friends are like they could just give you that look of oh cool, i say dont tell them unless you really have too! or if you feel its something you need to tell them do it drunk

[SirTrinian]

its great that partners share each others fun.. as for outside friends i think its a trust thing.

great you tried geordie girl

[thegamerster]

well the reason i asked was whle me and my friends were talking the other day and the topic of fetishes came up most of us said we had one but some of us felt a bit embarised to say what our fetish was.

[slimeysophie]

Only my best friend knows. I told her about it when we were talking about unusual things that we have done. I kinda censored what I said for her ears but once I got going, I was talking for a good 30 mins constantly about it! She thought it was weird but said "each to their own!" lol...so true! Since then, nothing has changed, still best friends!

I guess, the moral is, if you feel you want to tell someone, make sure you trust them. If they turn their back on you, they are not worth it. They like you for who you are. Everyone has secrets though so dont feel you have to say anything.

Hope this helps!

Sophie

[morepies]

I think I'd make a distinction between friends/mates & true friends. The latter are usually very few in number. I've told friends I was at school with more than 30 years ago - after this long there's not a lot we don't know about one another. I've also told g/fs & think openness is the best long-term policy here.

[eden]

l.

I tried to introduce a bit of wam fun with a g/f once. She said thats a bit different and we carried on dating but a few weeks later got dumped. She didn't mention the splosh thing as a reason but I was suspicious it might have been a reason so I agree with Eden, I dont think telling people your kinks is necessary.

I do think telling your partner is totally and utterly essential, though. I think with any fetish, especially ones which are perhaps more of a lifestyle or mindset than sploshing, such as most BDSM related things (I dont know how much people consider wam a lifestyle or a mindset but you know what I mean) it a pretty integral part of you and that if you don't discuss it with your partner you're kidding yourselves a little. Feel free to disagree on this one but now I dont think I could be with someone who wasn't more rough, less tickle now.

But friends.... sure, maybe I'd tell some if it came up. I still maintain they dont need to know... And if you tell them you might learn something you didnt want to know in return!!