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how do you explain to your girl (wife) that your into wam, and how do you explain that you want to get her messy

Just push a pie in her face lol

hmm i try it but if she freaks out, its on you dude

i'd bring how ur into wam in a conversation at some point if there's a messy tv advert or somthing like that, as for wanting to get her messy just ask if she will help get you messy first as its not for everyone and ya dont want to risk the relationship if she freaks

the goodies wrote:When you've got a gal that you wanna win, here's what to do if she won't give in
Pull her up close, turn out the lights, slip her a great big juicy slice of custard (custard pie)

Seriously tho, that won't work at all (in all probability), just talk to her about it, it better if you are watching something with a gunge scene or a pie fight and just come out with 'i've always fancied doing that' and see what she says.

gungergurusd wrote:how do you explain to your girl (wife) that your into wam, and how do you explain that you want to get her messy

Ive messed a few ladies and usually start the conversation by talkin about mudfights as a kid and they usually tell they never did it but would be fun then i mention a food fight and move on from there.........the rest is history

gungergurusd wrote:how do you explain to your girl (wife) that your into wam, and how do you explain that you want to get her messy

I would have to say just be honest. I have been recently introduced to this. I happened upon pix my boyfriend had stashed in his computer's thumbdrive. I was shocked at first... but intriqued. I have since tried it for the first time.
We have been dating for well over a year. And I still find it shocking that he kept this from me all of this time. I am pleased to be sharing this with him now. But it would have been an easier transition for me had it come from him openly and honestly, rather than my happening upon it the way I did.

I seem to remember a long a devious scheme I had... i dropped a link to a thumbnail set from the free house some time ago to my girl as a, "look at this, amusing eh?" kind of thing to gauge her response - which was less than enthusiastic. Some time later I brought it up again and said that it would be something I'd like to try and after several months of subtle hints, less than subtle hints, video sharing etc. we finally gave it a go a few weeks ago... when the response was much more enthusiastic

I guess the moral of the story is, like said before, try and bring in to conversation as naturally as possible... It depends *exactly* what you're into i guess - clothed, naked, food, mud, gunge, dunking... - might be more difficult to get some into conversation than others.

Other than that, you probably know your lady better than anyone else on the forum, how adventurous she is and what kind of hints and suggestions she's most likely to listen to.

sorry to go off topic - Messydaydreamz ... who's the lady in your avatar pic?

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I think that the only sensible way is to very casually mention this when a messy scene comes up in a film or tv, or on a picture...perhaps "That looks a whole lot of fun" or "Always wanted to do that as a kid"... then see how the conversation develops.

If your "significant other" isn't interested, or doesn't want to get involved, I guess you have to drop the matter unless you want to put the relationship in doubt...personally, I wouldn't risk that, I'd rather keep WAM as just a fun thing which doesn't interfere with "real life".

I've always been straight out open and honest about it, explained that it's a fetish and a significant part of my life. I don't have a problem with a partner who isn't into it (neither my g/f nor her other partner sploshers), as long as they don't have a problem with me doing / watching / producing splosh stuff.

Obviously how you introduce someone to it depends on what kind of sploshing you're into - for me it's mainly about getting clothes wet and messy, so sharing a clothed bath by candlelight is quite a good intro - makes it both daring and romantic at the same time, and you can have fun with it, spend time getting ready as if you were going out, let your SO dress up in a special outfit (go shopping together and buy something fancy that he or she likes from a charity shop if he/she's worried about ruining good clothes).

Break out some nice wine, light the room with candles and put the main lights out, and perhaps start by pouring a glass or two of water down each other's necklines while embracing, then step into the bath together and sit down in the water.

The one thing that can really wreck a relationship is keeping secrets. magine how you'd feel if you found out your s/o had been getting off on <insert random unusual kink here> for all the time you'd been together, but they'd never told you - that's how they'll feel if they ever find out you had a 'secret' fetish you didn't tell them about.

jon42 wrote:... and after several months of subtle hints, less than subtle hints, video sharing etc. we finally gave it a go a few weeks ago... when the response was much more enthusiastic

What Jon means to say is, if you bang on about it long enough, she'll do it

I think that you have to gauge just how adventures she is and what the likely reaction will be. I've had one partner who was more open minded and I just brought it up when we were talking about sexual fantasies.

While with others I have slowly introduced it with whip cream, ice cream, angel delight, etc and just seen how they react and what they do with it. I can't say that they will be fine with it but you may get a better initial reaction than you think.

Whatever you do I hope it goes well.

I think that you have to gauge just how adventures she is and what the likely reaction will be. I've had one partner who was more open minded and I just brought it up when we were talking about sexual fantasies.

While with others I have slowly introduced it with whip cream, ice cream, angel delight, etc and just seen how they react and what they do with it. I can't say that they will be fine with it but you may get a better initial reaction than you think.

Whatever you do I hope it goes well.

I would joke with my girlfriend about pushing her into water. One day, she asked me why I often joked about it, and I admitted I liked seeing girls wet.
Later, I suggested we cover ourselves in chocolate, and she was agreeable to it. We did it, and she liked it.
I actually showed her an issue of Splosh!, and she thought it was interesting!