Is sploshing with someone other than your partner cheating?

[stonecastle]

I posted this because of the response I got on a dating website forum. I mentioned one of my fantasies in a fantasy thread and a woman replied; "oh that fetish is not very extreme, it is quite mild". I then replied on the thread; "well how about meeting up and doing it for real then?" She then replied that she was now seeing someone and so couldn't.

So what do other people think? If you had a gorgous partner and they someone else asked them to take part in a sploshing session with them would you consider it cheating if they did it? I suppose it depends on how sexual you consider sploshing to be.

[shorty2kuk]

i personally would call it cheating if their/your partner did not know about it

[Etonman]

Definitely cheating, if done without the knowledge of the respective partner(s).....no different to "dating" someone else and keeping it secret from your own partner (and I think you are defining a sexual aspect by referring to sploshing as a "fetish"?).

[DungeonMasterOne]

Depends on the nature of the sploshing, the nature of the relationship, and whether the person's partner knew about it or not.

[MessyGuyNC]

Stone,

I agree it depends on alot.... I have a gf of four years who doesn't mind WAM, but should would be perfectly happy if I never mentioned also. Then I have a of probably 7 years now who just enjoys a fun silly food / pie fight.

So whenever I am in town me and my friend usually meet-up for a silly pie / food fight. The entire time we are clothed, no inappropriate touching.... just good, 'clean', silly fun. Sure I get sexually aroused (and BOTH woman know this).... but since its just for fun its never been a problem.

My gf is fine since we just do it for the silly fun factor... and the friend just has fun (and laughs at my hard-on each time).

I dont think the situation of two friends having a silly, fun time is cheating ( despite my arousal). But if me and her were meeting up specifically for the arousal.... then yes that would be cheating.

[SamW]

Interesting topic.

As sploshing is sexual (and a fetish) to my sub, doing it with someone else would definitely be cheating.

[elouiseuktv]

Interesting topic.

As sploshing is sexual (and a fetish) to my sub, doing it with someone else would definitely be cheating.

Agreed, if it is sexual it could be classed as cheating.

[andy250]

If the the other person has a partner and they do not know or consent to what is happening, then it is most deffo classed as cheating in my view.

regards

Andy

[stonecastle]

Those are quite interesting comments.

[malc]

I happen to disagree with most of the comments posted. Providing you realise that you are effectively acting out a fantasy, and both the participant (who you have probably paid for her time) is treated respectively, you can have a fun, and obviously sexual, experience without commiting any sexual act together.

For many people it is an opportunity to indulge themselves; be made to feel very special for an hour or so and then return to normality!

[Richard]

I agree with Malc, sploshing with a paid model or someone who simply enjoys the sensation themself is purely escapist entertainment. It is surely not substantially different to activities such as paintballing or testing oneself on an assault course or a car racetrack. If it gives you a vicarious sexual thrill then so much the better but it isn't the same as actually cheating on a partner and might even help the relationship.

[andy250]

Interesting answers from both sides of the coin as it where, will keep looking to see if we get any more answers.

Thanks to all who have posted.

regards

Andy

[morepies]

In the past, was it considered cheating to go to a strip club and pay for a lap-dance?

It depends what you consider 'cheating' to be. I don't think there are any absolutes.

I think two more relevant questions would be:

1) What are the chances your partner will find out about your sploshing?
2) What would her reaction be if she found out about it?

Leaving morality out of it, if the odds of detection are high and the consequences are an expensive divorce, it would be imprudent to go ahead.

I also think the following decision tree might be relevant:

a) You ask your partner to splosh with her and she says yes.
a1) You sposh with your partner and nobody else.
a2) You splosh with your partner and arrange secret sploshing sessions with another woman as well.

b) You ask your partner to splosh with you and she says no.
b1) You don't splosh with your partner or anyone else.
b2) You don't splosh with your partner but you do splosh secretly with someone else.

The issue now reduces to deciding whether b2 is any worse than a2.

- Morepies

[Hayley]

Sorry the word 'secretly' does it for me. As soon as you feel the need to do something that turns you on elsewhere 'secretly' then I have a problem. If you admit to what you like and your partner says no - remember it might be the other way round and her doing it to you - then you should either agree that it is ok for them to go elsewhere in a sex-free way or not do it. I know that this is not very hard sell for the studio but otherwise it is deception. And you'd defo get a slap if it was me!

Of course this does not include flirty stuff like emails or IMs just things that require your physical presence.

(waits for more hate mail)

[DungeonMasterOne]

I'd regard both 2a and 2b as equally wrong.

It's quite possible to have a non-sploshing partner and still do splosh activities (even sexual ones) with other people, but to be ethical, it all has to be above board and in the open, with everyone (including partners) aware of what's going on.

The question I'd ask is like this:

If, as someone who wants to do sploshing with someone other than your partner, would you be happy for your partner to indulge his/her favourite kink with someone other than you?

If the answer is yes, the there should be no problem. If the answer is no, then you're treating your partner as having fewer rights than you do, and that's a recipie for disaster.