Is sploshing with someone other than your partner cheating?

View · by **Hayley** » 05 Jan 2008, 00:37

Much what I was trying to say - but hampered by cheap white wine!

View · by **morepies** » 05 Jan 2008, 16:55

I haven't sploshed with a non-partner & am currently not attached. My comments are just general thoughts on the issue.

"If, as someone who wants to do sploshing with someone other than your partner, would you be happy for your partner to indulge his/her favourite kink with someone other than you?"

This is a version of 'do as you would be done by' - ie understand and sympathise with the feelings of your partner & use this as a guide when deciding how to act.

But suppose your partner DID indulge in a fetish without telling you. 'Do as you would be done by' implies you should imagine yourself in their position and as a result not want to punish them - because if you were in their shoes you wouldn't want to be punished yourself.

"Sorry the word 'secretly' does it for me."

I'm not sure that secrecy itself condemns an act. Pretty much all relationships have secrets and partners at some stage lie to one another - very often because they want to avoid harming the other person in some way.

My position is simply that:
1) sploshing with someone is not the same as sleeping with someone;
2 its not clear if its cheating because 'cheating' is an ambiguous term;
3) but it may be imprudent - so if you are found out, be prepared to pay the penalty;
4) if this bothers you - don't do it.

View · by **andy250** » 05 Jan 2008, 18:17

I am quiet lucky I have sploshed with a lot people who have partners, though I have a routine that everybody has to go through. Where everybody knows what everybody is doing. I also encourage the partner to come along to the session and watch. This sometime leads to the couple wanting a go instead. I have no problems with this at all and that point am quite happy to take the photos and do the vid etc.

I have refused people sessions, as they have not told their partner what they are doing, and will carry on to do so. As it could lead to also sorts of problems.

regards

Andy

View · by **SamW** » 05 Jan 2008, 21:17

Bloody hell - I cant believe how anyone could consider - acting out a fantasy (be it with a paid participant or other) anything other than cheating.

Im shocked.

And I bet if you asked the ladies would they be happy for their partners to participate in this particular scenario they wld be anything but.

Lets get real lads on page 1 !

View · by **Sploshman** » 06 Jan 2008, 20:02

This is a v.good topic and one that does open up a can of worms lol.

Me personally, i've told EVERY partner that i've been with that i do WAM and have shown them the pics as well.

Heck, i've even put up my pics on my myspace and facebook pages to make sure that i dont run away from NO ONE about it.

Anything other than not telling them from the start would be wrong in my view and also wrong for me to not let them know otherwise (as my thoughts would be playing up with me 24-7).

Most of my partners have been happy with me getting messy with other girls (and also wanted to do it with me) so i've been lucky with that.

I've even been lucky that 1 of my ex's has been happy to even try it out with me - as Bill and Hayley know fully well

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But one or two haven't and i respected their postion and have not done it as it is 100% wrong, no matter how much of an urge you have to do it.

Also a lot of the ladies that do private messy sessions with guys DO have partners so i do wonder what there thoughts are with this as it can get v.sexual and risque at times as seen in various pics.

View · by **dougiezerts** » 06 Jan 2008, 20:17

I think you should have done this subject as a poll.
And yes, I feel it's cheating. If, however, your partner agrees to let others in while you two splosh together, that's acceptable.

View · by **Richard** » 07 Jan 2008, 18:21

Sploshman, that last paragraph raises a good point, it would be interesting to find out but I don't think many of the paid models read this forum so perhaps Bill or Miss T could do some research on our behalf among their ladies.

This is certainly a cracking topic, thanks Stonecastle, for starting it.

View · by **wamram** » 07 Jan 2008, 18:41

My current girlfriend knows about my fetish and is happy with it.

And she was happy for me to have the session with Kate. We even sat and looked at the pictures of the session togather after and she thought it was funny to see me having pies pushed in my face and buckets of mess poured over me.

I agree with Sploshman as long as your 100% honest with your partner and they are happy with what your doing, I don't think it is cheating as long as it goes no further than messy fun.

View · by **stonecastle** » 07 Jan 2008, 20:53

wamram wrote:My current girlfriend knows about my fetish and is happy with it. And she was happy for me to have the session with Kate.

How did you manage to get a sploshing session with Kate? I'd love to get a sploshing session with a woman if I could.

View · by **wamram** » 07 Jan 2008, 20:56

stonecastle wrote:
wamram wrote:My current girlfriend knows about my fetish and is happy with it. And she was happy for me to have the session with Kate.
How did you manage to get a sploshing session with Kate? I'd love to get a sploshing session with a woman if I could.

Get in contact with Miss T :wink:

View · by **Richard** » 07 Jan 2008, 21:10

wamram wrote:
stonecastle wrote:
wamram wrote:My current girlfriend knows about my fetish and is happy with it. And she was happy for me to have the session with Kate.
How did you manage to get a sploshing session with Kate? I'd love to get a sploshing session with a woman if I could.

Get in contact with Miss T

wamram, you're being very cruel to Miss T. :shock:

View · by **wamram** » 07 Jan 2008, 21:13

Richard (sotonude) wrote:
wamram wrote:
stonecastle wrote:
wamram wrote:My current girlfriend knows about my fetish and is happy with it. And she was happy for me to have the session with Kate.
How did you manage to get a sploshing session with Kate? I'd love to get a sploshing session with a woman if I could.

Get in contact with Miss T

wamram, you're being very cruel to Miss T.

Do you think she'll punish me Richard?.................Sending Stonecastle her way

............boy am I for it when we next meet

View · by **Sploshman** » 07 Jan 2008, 22:47

Richard (sotonude) wrote:Sploshman, that last paragraph raises a good point, it would be interesting to find out but I don't think many of the paid models read this forum so perhaps Bill or Miss T could do some research on our behalf among their ladies.

Er...............

DD
Messy Merecedes
Gilly
Kate (Bound 2 B Messy)
Claire WAM Princess
Miss Stockings

..........all post on here Rich

.

Would love to hear there views on this if possible.

View · by **Richard** » 07 Jan 2008, 23:57

I would also like to hear their views, along with those of the many other models. However, of the ones you list;

1 DD is a moderator of the forum so posts a lot - OK.
2 Mercedes mostly tends to post to give updates on her site - so perhaps.
3 Gilly, similar posts to Mercedes but for GSH - also perhaps.
4 Kate, unless she has a different username - no posts.
5 Claire, used to post a lot but not lately - also perhaps.
6 Miss Stockings, OK I'll give you that one.

Not exactly a group of prolific posters on general issues such as this!

View · by **Sploshman** » 08 Jan 2008, 00:10

I'm sure Kate has posted on here once or twice (maybe that was on the UMD LOL).

Claire hasn't been on here for a while so that's true.

It's still better than nothing

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